Our hearts go out to Lance Bass and his husband Michael Turchin as their journey to parenthood has come to a tragic pause.
In a new interview with ET, the *NSYNC member revealed that he and his hubby had lost their baby boy after nine IVF attempts. He said to the outlet:
“We unfortunately lost him after eight weeks, which happens to pretty much everyone when you’re going through IVF. I didn’t even know that as we were going through this, but we’ve met so many great couples who have the same story. So, you do feel a lot of support knowing other people have gone through it.”
The 40-year-old singer and his artist husband have been pursuing parenthood ever since tying the knot in 2014. After eight failed attempts to start a family via surrogacy, the couple received wonderful news last August — that egg donor number nine had been successful.
With their surrogate having successfully become pregnant for the first time, the couple could finally see their future with a child. Bass recalled:
“You try to trick yourself into not getting excited because you know anything can happen at any time, especially in those first few weeks when there’s a huge possibility that the [embryos] won’t stick. You keep telling yourself that and trying not to get your hopes up, but you’re always going to have those thoughts in the back of your brain where you’re already planning out their lives. Especially once you know the sex — you can’t help but fast-forward over their entire lives and imagine who they’re going to be like, who they might marry and all kinds of stuff.”
Sadly, the couple’s excitement for their son made the discovery of the miscarriage all the more devastating. He added:
“That’s the thing that sucks — you can’t help yourself from thinking those thoughts and having this perfect world scenario in your mind. Getting over that has been hard. It’s like all these hopes and dreams I had won’t be happening this time. But everything happens for a reason and when it needs to happen, it’ll have to happen.”
Despite the heartbreak, Bass says he and Turchin are staying positive and continuing their surrogacy journey. In fact, they’ve just found their 10th egg donor and are planning to start another IVF attempt within the next few months.
“It’s been a very long process, years in the making. There have been a lot of ups and downs … way more downs than ups…. Nine did not work, so now we’re onto 10 and hopefully the next time will work. I’m trying not to worry about it.”
Bass added that he and his husband are also considering adoption down the road, adding:
“Of course, in a perfect world I would love to have my own kids. But if it’s not meant in the cards, then it’s not meant in the cards and there are plenty of kids who need adopting. So, I’m not opposed to going right ahead and adopting if this fails next time.”
Keep your head up, Lance — you’ll be a parent one way or another!
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